Midnight is just a few hours away. It will signal the start of a brand spanking new decade. Yeah! That time can’t tick by quickly enough because this particular celebration is really precious to me. The list of things I am grateful to leave behind include financial losses, family illnesses, broken arms, surgery and being evacuated from my home barely two blocks North of the World Trade Center as I stood by helplessly watching as thousands died. It took years to recover but I did. And, shortly after I finally breathed a guilty survivor’s sigh of relief, I suddenly found myself working for a vicious and abusive boss who brought me to my knees. Once again I’ve moved on and rebuilt my life and – although I bristle when other people say this – I have indeed made lemonade out of lemons by making this site that includes the videos already posted, those in progress, and meeting all of you.
I remember reading a research study about workplace bullying and PTSD that found that the further one gets from the actual experience the easier it is to heal. I had to leave Manhattan to recover from 9/11 and later I had to leave the institution I worked at to recover from the bullying experience. One workplace bullying expert that I’ve come to respect, Catherine Mattice (noworkplacebullies.com), just posted an interesting article about the Army’s research into the importance of optimism and the severity of PTSD.
“Resilient individuals are optimistic and energetic, curious, and demonstrate positive emotionality. Resiliency is about being flexible in stressful experiences and bouncing back when they are over.”
I’m not sure I’m optimistic. I think I’m just stubborn enough to refuse to give anyone the satisfaction of destroying me. And lucky enough not to have had to face the limits of what would break me. My heart goes out to those who did and I send warm hugs to the friends and families of Jodie and Marlene Braun and all the others unable to make the journey back.
Warm wishes for an optimistic New Year to you and yours.